Saturday, July 19, 2014

Brain Dump - July 19th

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Note: Although I'm trying to catch as many errors as I can, please overlook any typos, grammatical mistakes, missing words, and mispellings you find in this post (yeah, I misspelled "misspellings" on purpose to give you some practice at overlooking any other mistakes you see).


a. It has been four days since I dumped my mind online. Some folks have wondered if we're still alive, so I thought I'd post something tonight. ;-)

b. This past week was full of non-stop work. In fact, I've worked so much and so hard on my computer, my body is tired.

c. I'm thankful [now] that I begin implementing a Sabbath day prior to leaving NC. I've honored it since I've been in Texas, and it has been helpful.

d. You may be familiar with God's command in the Garden of Eden for man to work six days and rest on the seventh day.This is the same command he gave with tilling the land - except it was in years instead of days:

Speak to the Israelites and say to them: 'When you enter the land I am going to give you, the land itself must observe a sabbath to the LORD. But in the seventh year the land is to have a year of sabbath rest, a sabbath to the LORD. Do not sow your fields or prune your vineyards. Do not reap what grows of itself or harvest the grapes of your untended vines. The land is to have a year of rest. (Leviticus 25:3-5)

e. There's something about that rest period (speaking in terms of physical rest now). There's a rejuvenation that takes place. There's an opportunity to reflect on the activity, which can lead to even more effective activity (says management guru Peter Drucker).

f. A lot of people hate Monday (like him), and Monday gets some people down (like her). However, by the time Sunday evening rolls around, I can barely wait for Monday to start because I'm so amped up by the rest and time away from trying to solve a marriage or technical problem.

g. On a lighter note, I want to give a couple of shoutouts to two people who have asked why they haven't seen their name in the brain dumps. So, Todd & Amber, here you go. ;-)

h. On a thankful note, I learned tonight that my godson's mother, Brandi, was in an accident this morning that ended with her car flipping twice, landing upside down, and her walking away. After you see the pics, you'll see why I'm so thankful she's alive & only banged up. Click here for some pics and her reaction.

i. Each night we pray as a family, and each person individually offers a prayer that begins with an attribute. Tonight's attributes were Cornerstone; Powerful; Messiah: Great in power, mighty in strength; and Keeper. The first three came from my kids. It's great to hear them addressing our Heavenly Father this way. I pray they'll grow up experiencing God being these very things in their life.







Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Brain Dump - July 15th

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Note: Although I'm trying to catch as many errors as I can, please overlook any typos, grammatical mistakes, missing words, and mispellings you find in this post (yeah, I misspelled "misspellings" on purpose to give you some practice at overlooking any other mistakes you see).


a. Today I celebrated 14 years of marriage with Cetelia. When we first married, it seems [to me] that I was following what God told me to do. Sure, I cared about her and was heavily attracted to her, but I really didn't know her that well. We were friends, but not BFFs.

b. Fourteen years later, she's my bestie. I'm continually learning to love her, and she's learning to love me.

c. We have both changed a lot since we married, and will continue to do so. The key, therefore, is for us both to remain patient with one another.

d. Colossians 3:12-15 seems to hold good instruction for us (and any married couple that plans to stay together for life): 

Therefore, God’s chosen ones, holy and loved, put on heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, accepting one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a complaint against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive. Above all, put on love—the perfect bond of unity. 

e. I love you, Cetelia. I know I aggravate you at times, and you have to bite your lip to keep from blasting me (you're so cute when you're angry!). Thanks for being compassionate, kind, humble, gentle, and patient. You accept me and forgive me - even as you have complaints against me. Thanks for being committed to walking in love so our marriage can work.






Monday, July 14, 2014

Brain Dump - July 14th

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Note: Although I'm trying to catch as many errors as I can, please overlook any typos, grammatical mistakes, missing words, and mispellings you find in this post (yeah, I misspelled "misspellings" on purpose to give you some practice at overlooking any other mistakes you see).


a. I feel like I'm in Texas now. I saw a guy riding a horse down the road today. He had on cowboy boots and a cowboy hat. The only jarring part was that he was on a cellphone. Never seen that before.

b. For the past few days I've been choosing joy, viz., I've been bringing myself back to this place of choosing to be okay with my lot, and looking for God's hand in it all.

c. The scripture that has ministered to me the most has been Romans 15:13, "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." 

d. I love this verse for several reasons:

  • It reminds me that God, himself, is full of hope
  • He's able to fill me with all joy and peace
  • I'm filled with this joy and peace to the degree that I trust in him
  • The result is that I, too, will overflow with hope (like the God of hope)
  • Finally, this isn't some "hope" I conjure up. It's hope given by the God's Spirit.

e. I first became familiar with the verse when I heard it in a song many years ago. Click here to listen to this powerful verse in song.

f. I found another version of this song. Click here to see/hear it. (side note: if the person responsible for aligning the words being sung with the words on the screen worked at a church, he'd get fired as soon as praise & worship was over).

g. Today was Kuria Joy Bullard day. Each person in our family is celebrated 6 months after/before their birthday. The recipient gets a small gift just to show that he/she is loved. 

h. Although Cetelia bought KJ two gifts from us, KJ checked me for not giving her anything personally. I'm thinking her love language might be receiving of gifts.






Sunday, July 13, 2014

Brain Dump - July 13th


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Note: Although I'm trying to catch as many errors as I can, please overlook any typos, grammatical mistakes, missing words, and mispellings you find in this post (yeah, I misspelled "misspellings" on purpose to give you some practice at overlooking any other mistakes you see).


Today was an adventurous day all the way around:

a. We finally got up early enough to make it to the 7:50 service at church.

b. Heard a great sermon about being generous with love.

c. We became members of the church today, and it becomes official after going through orientation on July 26th. I kinda felt like I was cheating on my church in NC, but I know this is the church God wanted our family to join. 

d. The next step is to join one of the ministries. I'm most interested in the Internet/Newsletter and Procedures & Policies. Nerdy stuff, I know.

e. After church I saw the sexiest bottle of Olay I've ever seen. Click here to see it.

f. We went to McKinney to look at a house today McKinney is about 40 minutes from downtown Dallas). We found out about the house from a woman Cetelia met this past week at a training. It's a nice house, and has great potential to become our next abode. I'll keep you posted.

g. After a really nice nap, we sweated our rear ends off at the pool while the kids swam. Today hit triple digits. It was 90° at 10 this morning, peaked at 104° this afternoon, and is currently 85° at 11:35 PM (the weather site says it feels like 90° - without the sun shining. That's nuts!).

h. After losing 10 pounds via sweat at the pool, we headed to Dallas to see Uncle Chips -- Christopher Bullard. My brother is in town for a conference this week, so we went to see him. As always, it was great seeing my younger, big brother. Love you, dude!

h. We spent nearly all our time at Dealey Plaza, of course, the site of JFK's assassination. It was getting dark, but I snapped a few pics.

  • Pic 1 (Cetelia and the girls are standing to the right of the pedestal Zapruder stood on to get his footage)
  • Pic 2 (The white "X" marks the spot of the fateful shot)
  • Pic 3 (A pic of the book depository from the white "X")
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  • Pic 4 (A panorama of the entire scene)

i. It was wild to be in the spot that still has people up in arms about conspiracies. I've read new accounts & watched a host documentaries, news stories, and videos about November 23, 1963. My curiosity has only grown stronger over the years. Believe it or not, what really happened that day may be my first question for God.

j. There was a man there tonight who was triangulating where the sign stood that blocked part of Zuprader's movie of the assassination. This brilliant man was also a mad man. He spoke about the flag, freedom, secret service, the surveyor in Dallas at the time, Adam & Eve, Humpty Dumpty, the Statue of Liberty, the Israelites, pigs, apples, and even Jesus to make his point about the assassination.

k. It started out very interesting, then got very weird. Fortunately, my phone rang so I had to step away.

l. I received a call from a pastor who wants Sweet Cetelia and me to speak at their marriage conference in Dallas in August. Score! This follows on the heels of a call I received yesterday about us speaking at a marriage conference in Forth Worth in October. Double score! I've not even put out feelers for us speaking yet, so it's cool that we've already got two engagements. As my friend, Craig, says, "Go God!"

m. How fitting that I'm on letter "M." seems like a good place to talk about Marriage Works! I'm excited. I spent  the latter part of last week reading some great literature, and developing a new strategy. I feel like what I've been doing has all been in the same vein for several years. The cheese has been moved. If I don't find new cheese, I'll become extinct. Excited to implement the new strategy.






Thursday, July 10, 2014

Brain Dump - July 10th

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Note: Although I'm trying to catch as many errors as I can, please overlook any typos, grammatical mistakes, missing words, and mispellings you find in this post (yeah, I misspelled "misspellings" on purpose to give you some practice at overlooking any other mistakes you see).


a. Things have appeared to slow down just a tad since we moved into the new digs. As such, I don't have a heck of a lot to say.

b. I felt like I needed to get re-tooled in my thinking about Marriage Works!, so I re-read Who Moved My Cheese? this morning. I wrote down 35 notes, and will review them to ensure I'm not letting fear of the unknown keep me stuck.

c. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and hard place with Marriage Works! -- operating the day-to-day, which is ever-growing, and creating new content.

d. Cetelia and I talked about it tonight, and I don't think there's an easy answer. I don't like the "survival" mode, and need a breakthrough production-wise to get out of it. But, that means that I've got to spend less time on the day-to-day so I can work on the breakthrough items. Conundrum.

e. I'm outsourcing where I can, but a lot of it falls on my shoulders. I'm praying for wisdom to move beyond mental boundaries I may have made for myself, and wisdom to use my time most productively. Something's gotta give.
 





Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Brain Dump - July 8th

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Note: Although I'm trying to catch as many errors as I can, please overlook any grammatical mistakes, missing words, and mispellings you find in this post (yeah, I misspelled "misspellings" on purpose to give you some practice at overlooking any other mistakes you see).

a. Today Max and I made the 2.5 hour drive to Waco. Thanks to my bud LMM, I had a meeting with a pastor who wants Marriage Works! to 1) train his life group leaders on how to provide marriage counseling, and 2) develop a system folks go through from engagement through the first year of marriage. More on that later.

b. After the meeting, Max and I had lunch with LMM. We had a great conversation, and I thought it further strengthened our friendship of almost 20 years.

c. I had a great conversation with MH, and she really encouraged me to keep writing and exploring how I feel about this transition to Texas. She helped me see that by tackling my own giants, I give others permission to tackle theirs. Thanks, MH!

d. I'm finding my faith in God increasing as we walk through this season. My attribute for God during family prayer tonight was him being a way-maker. Putting my confidence in his ability, which is where he wants it to be, provides me the stability I need from day-to-day no matter what's going on around me.

e.Cetelia has been writing about how she's partnering with God to respond differently to me. This is encouraging to me because she and I have been bumping heads lately. It seemed that when I told her about how she was making me feel, she pushed back, which made me want to shut down.

f. I recall walking out the house in Fort Worth one morning last week, looking up to the sky and saying, "God, she's your daughter, and I commit her to you." A day or two later I woke up, and the first thing I heard in my heart was, "Live at peace with her" (based on Romans 12:18).

g. That became my goal, and it has not been easy. Still, I've taken the attitude that I can only control what I do, and only have influence in her life. 

h.This recent rough road has helped me generate a lot of good notes on conflict management, and I plan to share them in an interview this weekend, and create a new resource soon.

i. I love Cetelia. She's a good woman. We're learning how to live with and love one another during change. Although everyday has not been easy, I'm happy that we've both committed to growing in our individual relationship with Christ. That, in my estimation, is what's at the core of making our marriage work.





Monday, July 7, 2014

Brain Dump - July 7th

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Note: Although I'm trying to catch as many errors as I can, please overlook any typos, grammatical mistakes, missing words, and mispellings you find in this post (yeah, I misspelled "misspellings" on purpose to give you some practice at overlooking any other mistakes you see).



a. Seriously, PJ? smh


b. I'm hopeful today's post will show some maturity on my part. We went house-hunting today, and like it has happened multiple times before, the house we saw available the night before was gone the next day. We had a new experience today: a house that was available at 2 PM was gone at 3:30. We learned this as we tried to get into the house using the electronic keybox.


c. I have to admit that I was discouraged for a moment. I felt myself going back into the place of, "I'm tired of looking ... this keep happening." BUT, I did something today that I had not been doing: I began rehearsing all the amazing things God has done for us - including us being at the home of perfect strangers ... alone ... while they're 25 hours away. If that's not enough to change my outlook, then I don't know what it is.


d. For real, PJ? smh


e. I mentioned yesterday that the story of Elijah and the widow woman in seemed to be where we are right now. In this story, Elijah is sent to a widow who's planning to make a final meal for she and her son so they can die (there was a famine in the land). While the story is interesting (read it here), I've not been able to get past verse 8: "Go at once to Zarephath in the region of Sidon and stay there. I have directed a widow there to supply you with food."


f. Zarephath means refinement, proving, measuring, testing. I feel like ever since we've gotten to Texas, we've been tested. I've acknowledged that I failed the test for at least three of the weeks we've been here. Now that I realize I'm being tested, I'm able to handle the perceived setbacks with more resolve. Why? Because I recognize God is doing something good for my family and me.


1. He's working in our hearts, which is good. He's trying to make us look like Jesus, which is good. 


2. He's helping Cetelia and me learn to work through conflict created by external circumstances, and that's good. 


3. He's helping all five of us - especially the kids - learn through experience how to be faithful stewards, and that's good. 


4. He's teaching us how to walk by what we believe, not by what we can see, and that's good.


5. He's showing us that our sufficiency is not enough to get us through life, and that's good.


6. He's helping us learn how to receive his love & provisions from the hands of others - even if it's humiliating, and that's good.


7. He's breaking our pride of having it altogether and not needing anyone's assistance, and that's good.


8. He's drawing us closer together as a family, and teaching me how to be a family shepherd that depends on God - not his ability to make money, and that's good.


9. He's showing us the value of patience, and how he's always working, even when he's silent, and that's good.


10. He's revealing that he really is in charge of our destiny - not us, and that's good.


g. There's so much more he's showing us, but this is enough for tonight. 


h. God is becoming more real to me because I'm realizing that I don't have what it takes to make things happen on my own. I can push, prod, poke, promote, pressure, and any other "P" word you can think of, but without him - and all he brings to the party - I'm unable to take effective action ... I'm helpless ...powerless.


i. I need him. Period. He can get along without me, but wants to partner with me. He's showing me me that power belongs to him - not me.