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Highlight: Working all day, and making strides on a Marriage Works! project
Summary:
a. There's not a great deal to write about today. I was in the library for six hours, at Panera for 2.5 hours, and have been working tonight for almost 2 hours. I was behind on my work due to an issue this week that took about three days to get under control. So today was my day to work, work, work.
b. On the way back to our hosts' home, I looked over in the field and at least a couple hundred cows grazing. I was able to see a few calf nursing. It reminded me of how my kids are dependent upon me to nourish and teach them about God and life in general. What a tall order! The only way I can do this successfully is to abide in the vine so I can be nourished myself.
Lesson Learned:
Both Cetelia and I can become headstrong, and entrenched in our positions. While I want to win, doing so doesn't benefit my marriage at all. It's better for me to back down, be cool, and try to find a way to move the conversation forward without trying to score points. I work with so many couples who are recalcitrant, bitter, and vengeful. I don't want to have a marriage like that. The way to avoid going that way is to love Cetelia. She's a lovely person, but sometimes she awakens the bull in Bullard because of our different of opinions, preferences, and perspectives (the new OPP?). I have a choice to make at all times: I can be a jerk, or I can be like Jesus. "Jesus, help me to be like you. I often want to be a jerk, and feel justified in doing so. Help me to love Cetelia like you love the church."
